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A hostage negotiator's guide to being conflict-ready | Ryan Dunlap | TEDxPortland

Conflict is often framed as something we should embrace, but former hostage negotiator Ryan Dunlap argues that conflict itself is neither healthy nor unhealthy, it simply reveals the emotional health

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"Conflict created nothing but reflects everything." Im not even 2 minutes in and I already need my notepad.
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This is so good! "Soft skills are for hard moments"💯
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I always stop and listen when Ryan Dunlap speaks and this was no different. I love how he interweaves personal relationships within a professional topic. It helps to humanize us in all things.
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Phenomenal insight! Thank you for sharing.
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One of the best in the field today!
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You did an amazing job of giving us the bare bones of conflict resolution. Thank you for this.
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Great talk! Conflict is coming
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A topic we all need to embrace and be able to recover from! What an incredibly engaging talk. Ryan knocked it out of the park.
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This should be taught at school, and become a part of mandatory school curriculum
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So good! Step into conflict as your healthiest self and step out of it as a more healthy, resilient version of yourself. 👏🏽
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Fantastic! I learn something everytime I read or hear something from you.
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Excellent!!!! I’m in the recovery stage from a recent intense family conflict. This is VERY helpful!
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This is perfect timing! I’m preparing for a difficult conversation with my siblings on how to support our mother, after the recent loss of her husband. She’s 74 years old with health issues and now she lives alone.
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Mr.Dunlop. You did amazing job. Congratulations….
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@adani35 From YouTube ↗ 15 Jul 2026 3
This is fantastic....Just realized that I read his book earlier this year!
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This talk was engaging and challenging from the start. Gave practical tools to change! Thanks
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I have only met this man in the last year and he has already taught me so much about conflict and self-manegement. Bravo Ryan!🎉🎉
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I work daily to be my healthiest self. It's hard work but so worth it. I have learned and continue to learn how to navigate conflict through listening to experts and reading their books. Thank you so much for sharing your expertise.
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❤❤❤No such thing as healthy conflict, only healthy people… That will become a part of my “reminder wall” of notes!!!
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@TEDx From YouTube ↗ 14 Jul 2026 10
How do you handle conflict?